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Information for Parents
Finding out that your child has been sexually abused is a difficult and
confusing time for parents. You may find yourself feeling anger, guilt, sadness,
frustration or confusion. These feelings are normal. As a parent of a child who
has been sexually abused, you may feel as if your life has been turned upside
down by what has happened to your child. There are many things you can do to
help your child heal and also help yourself deal with what has happened.
- Believe Your Child
It is very important for your child to know that you support them, even though
they may be saying things that are hard to accept. Children very rarely make
up stories of abuse or sexual violence.
- Reassure Your Child
Tell your child that they did the right thing by telling and that what
happened to them is not their fault.
- Try to Remain Calm
Even though you may feel upset, angry, or sad, which are all normal feelings,
showing anger around your child may confuse him/her. When children see their
parents expressing anger, they may feel like you are angry with them.
- Follow Your Child's Lead
Do not push them to talk or ask leading questions. Just listen and support
when and if your child wants to talk about the abuse. Be patient. Understand
that some victims may be sensitive to touching. It's important to respect that
your child might not want to be touched by anyone. Ask if it's okay before
hugging or kissing your child.
- Sex Abuse Can Affect the Whole
Family
Whether siblings know about the abuse or not, chances are they have noticed
changes in the family and may need some help understanding what is happening
in their family. Don't pretend nothing has happened.
- Get Support for Yourself
It is important that you have support in order to be strong for your children.
Meeting with a counselor or attending a parent support group can help you
through this difficult time.
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